My dad told me to live in DC as opposed to NoVa. He said back in the 70's when he was single living in NYC, he wouldn't date girls from Brooklyn. They were GU's, "geographically undesirable." After having lived in Burke (Fairfax) for a year, and Falls Church for 6 months, I have dated plenty of guys in the DC area and only once did a guy back out of asking me out because I was not metro accessible (and what does that tell you about him, that he's cheap, lazy, wasn't too attracted to me). Sure, it's a bit of self-selection and adds to the challenge of dating, but living in NoVa has only positively effected my dating life.
If you're dating a DC playboy, one issue will definitely arise...where do we meet for the date?
If he suggests a place for the date that’s more convenient for him, say “are there any restaurants closer to [insert your location here] we could try.” If he drives, suggest that he pick you up. If he doesn’t drive, then really push for you guys to meet someplace convenient for you near public transportation. A guy who lived in MD (when I lived in VA) suggested that we meet up the a Smithsonian museum in DC for a date. I was truly not attracted to him, and didn't want to waste more than 30 minutes on him, so I said, "sorry I’m really swamped this week, can we do VA?" He agreed.
You may have noticed that many DC playboys do not have cars. Besides going far distances to meet him, avoid getting him into your car and playing chauffeur. Remember, men pick-up and drive women. Men see driving as manly, so don’t emasculate him or scare him with your neurotic Jewish woman driving skills. (exception: my blind grandfather who enjoyed women driving him around his whole life).
After a few dates, you can trade off visiting each other on your respective turfs, but encourage in the beginning that he schlep to you as opposed to the other way around. It’s also a bit of self-selection if he lives far away from you. If he likes you, he’ll make the effort despite the distance. And under no circumstances should you say for a first date, “well, I happen to be coming to DC Saturday night anyway.” Make yourself challenging, and he will stay interested! If he’s not crazy about you, he’ll find a chick who lives closer.
Enjoy dating the DC playboys!
Love, Ms. Avi.